The Jen pile-on was jarring. The reasoning felt petty (inconsistencies in what she shares about her relationship? Because it's not The Truth™️?) and the reaction felt cruel. Ostracism is a lonely, psychological hellscape, and they cast Jen out with an uncomfortable amount of ease.
The insidiousness of abuse in intimate relationships and culture of victim blaming/gaslighting that exists makes the (possible) inconsistencies of what Jen shared to her friends sadly make sense. If unable to communicate in an emotionally intelligent manner (which felt largely absent to me), I too, would resort to exaggerating conflict if it meant 1) my friends wouldn't write me off as "that's nothing," 2) I'd receive the emotional support I was looking for (since directly asking for support doesn't seem to be present, there has to be a justified Reason™️). The isolation is all the more frustrating because if the relationship is continuing to harm Jen, she needs support more than ever.
The Chippendale performance was absurd and additionally piling on Jen for "consenting" to that was inhumane. It seems dangerous to disagree in this group of friends, so to take Jen's flippant comment that the idea of the performance would be funny as "consent" is far reaching. Also, consent can be withdrawn at anytime. Her shaking her head no and additional "no" gestures visible felt like a pretty strong "no" to me. Gross.
A better name for the show would've been "Mormon Wives Confusing reality and individual perceptions of reality and bludgeoning each other with The Accountability™️ baton." There was so much condemnation vollied back and forth for people not feeling the approved way, it was disorienting. "She should feel...." was probably said more than once but I don't care to go back and count. It felt like the worst miscommunication tropes from fantasy books played out in people's lives. Misunderstandings run rampant and how someone feels about anything at any moment is an indicator of their character. Not their choices. Not their actions. Their feelings.
Overall, really sad to watch. I walked away with a heavy heart. I hope one day they can learn what it means to "fight the patriarchy" in a way that doesn't include harming themselves and their friends.
“Just as God in Christ has forgiven you” is the funniest screen grab 😂 Preach the good word sister. Also heavy on the they are fighting orthodoxy not patriarchy 👏👏👏👏
The Jen pile-on was jarring. The reasoning felt petty (inconsistencies in what she shares about her relationship? Because it's not The Truth™️?) and the reaction felt cruel. Ostracism is a lonely, psychological hellscape, and they cast Jen out with an uncomfortable amount of ease.
The insidiousness of abuse in intimate relationships and culture of victim blaming/gaslighting that exists makes the (possible) inconsistencies of what Jen shared to her friends sadly make sense. If unable to communicate in an emotionally intelligent manner (which felt largely absent to me), I too, would resort to exaggerating conflict if it meant 1) my friends wouldn't write me off as "that's nothing," 2) I'd receive the emotional support I was looking for (since directly asking for support doesn't seem to be present, there has to be a justified Reason™️). The isolation is all the more frustrating because if the relationship is continuing to harm Jen, she needs support more than ever.
The Chippendale performance was absurd and additionally piling on Jen for "consenting" to that was inhumane. It seems dangerous to disagree in this group of friends, so to take Jen's flippant comment that the idea of the performance would be funny as "consent" is far reaching. Also, consent can be withdrawn at anytime. Her shaking her head no and additional "no" gestures visible felt like a pretty strong "no" to me. Gross.
A better name for the show would've been "Mormon Wives Confusing reality and individual perceptions of reality and bludgeoning each other with The Accountability™️ baton." There was so much condemnation vollied back and forth for people not feeling the approved way, it was disorienting. "She should feel...." was probably said more than once but I don't care to go back and count. It felt like the worst miscommunication tropes from fantasy books played out in people's lives. Misunderstandings run rampant and how someone feels about anything at any moment is an indicator of their character. Not their choices. Not their actions. Their feelings.
Overall, really sad to watch. I walked away with a heavy heart. I hope one day they can learn what it means to "fight the patriarchy" in a way that doesn't include harming themselves and their friends.
“Big Chippendale“ and “Little Chippendale“ 😅
“Just as God in Christ has forgiven you” is the funniest screen grab 😂 Preach the good word sister. Also heavy on the they are fighting orthodoxy not patriarchy 👏👏👏👏
“Moving the needle on the patriarchy” 🫡🫡 👌🏼👌🏼